If you’re not honest, you ain’t got sh*t
- Feb 5th 2015
Offensive title I know, but that’s how I really feel about it. If you ask a person if they’re honest, the usual answer is yes. Fact is, It’s not always that way.
Honesty is one of the few things we have that keeps us human and it seems like there’s less and less of it. I don’t get it. It’s tough to live a life of lies and it only makes everything more complicated. Lying to make someone feel better is only delaying the reality, it would be better to tactfully be honest and sincere. It can be easier to tell a big fat lie but in the long run the odds are it’ll catch up to you or give the other person false information that can lead to an awkward situation.
It’s funny, lying is something we’ve got in us from a very early age. Any parent knows that little kids tell lies, even the ones as young as around 3. When kids lie, many people find it adorable and that’s not helping. I’m not saying to punish the child, but don’t encourage it.
As adults, we tend to lie to save other’s feelings (or our own), lying to ourselves is possibly the worst thing we can do and why do we do it? To deny something that we prefer not to admit is a pretty rough place to be, if that’s the case, I recommend getting some outside help to get to the crux of the situation.
Before you find yourself in a situation where you’re toying with telling a lie, ask yourself “Why am I doing this?” Then take a minute to think if it’s worth it. Would you be ok with being told a lie by that person? If not, you may want to rethink your strategy. If you find you’re lying to someone quite often, you need to examine the relationship and figure out why you’re still in it or why you’re not being genuine with that person.
Honesty can be difficult but it’s way easier than trying to remember lies and stories, give yourself a break and do your best to live an authentic life.